Sometimes (or maybe oftentimes) you may feel you are on a rollercoaster with how your life is going. Do you oftentimes feel like the universe has thrown you in the washing machine and punched the button for the spin cycle? And that nothing ever really flows in your direction? Yeah, me, too. So one day, I meditated on this and received some profound information from my spirit helpers. Now, because we typically work with beliefs that are ingrained in our subconscious, these patterns can be hard to break – but not impossible. However, getting the understanding that was offered from those in spirit has made a tremendous difference in the right direction. Hopefully if you feel you are on a similar rollercoaster, perhaps this might help.
First, they stated “Switching from a negative worldview to a positive one is essential for success and obtaining a better flow through life.” They continued with the following: Events in life, as you will soon see, need to be seen from the perspective of “How might I be improved by this encounter? What might I learn and who might I meet that can help propel me forward to the next level?” These are how events work in a Universe that is working on your behalf, versus one that is perceived as being “against you.” In the end, life is all about the greater good, and then moving you in that direction.
When you come at events and directions from a state of fear (mild or extreme) such events don’t take on this “greater good” perspective. Rather, you may find yourself approaching them as a burden or obligation; you are not looking to take away anything that builds or expands your Self because you are in a “self-protective” mode. In fact, you will perceive things as taking away your time, taking away your energy, taking away your effort. This is a “lack” mentality.
It’s how fear (even mild anxiety) twists and defines things. It becomes a “you-against-the-world” reality, where you must constantly fight and struggle either mentally or emotionally to get through the day. When you walk down a hallway, you can almost hear the walls talking about you – muttering, snickering, passing obscene stories and whispering about how the world is conspiring against you. Worse yet, you may actually feel you were born to be in this dilemma – without choice, destined to live out the pre-ordained existence of strife which you have always endured since you took your first breath; that you were somehow born flawed, off-the-mark, and somewhat “broken.” Admittedly, this is what we are taught as a society – that things are a struggle and that everything is an uphill battle or against you, that you were born at a disadvantage. Truth is, that is only in the movies, where drama is contrived in order to create entertainment and keep you glued to the screen. Real life isn’t and/or doesn’t have to be that way.
You get to decide.
We live in a probabilistic universe, where our lives are open to a field of possibilities based on our thoughts, attitudes, and emotions – and the choices we make based off those very personal perceptions. Living with chronic anxiety and low-level fear robs you of probabilities, as such things cast a blinder over those possible outcomes that could be deemed “helpful” “loving” and “nurturing.” Such possibilities aren’t within the purview of fear and anxiety (if they were, fear and anxiety wouldn’t be present). The perception of a nurturing universe doesn’t produce fear. The perception of a loving universe doesn’t produce anxiety. Holding onto chronic fear and anxiety weighs probable outcomes exclusively to the more negative side of life. It’s all in what you choose to observe in yourself and the universe around you.
In a world view of anxiety, the fear turns the perception of the universe into something inherently anti-loving and antagonizing, leaving the mind to grapple with the unpredictability of when the next inconvenience would be cropping up. You might always be wondering – consciously or (most likely, because of it being a buried habit) unconsciously — “What is going to happen next to me that I have to struggle with?” That thought becomes the prevailing attitude and subsequent feeling sensation within the body. There is no joy, happiness, or laughter available in this type of world view, and invites depression, anger, and impatience as we are always “on guard.” Relaxation can become more about finding treatments or addictions for momentary distractions of appearing “relaxed” – more like a “time out” – while in the midst of constant battle.
When we say “yes” to constant fear and anxiety, we say “yes” to always wearing the armor and shield in order to be in the world. It is constant stress that will burn out your adrenals, wear out your mind, and bring on a host of other illnesses. The body isn’t meant to be mobilized in this state 24/7, yet this is what oftentimes people do.
By contrast, the perception of a loving and nurturing universe allows one to “go with the flow.” In this world view, the universe is always working for one’s highest good. We can relax and – in that more open state – be receptive to a wider range of possibilities when challenges do arise. A “triage” mentality can be avoided, where one is looking for the quickest fix and hammering it home versus looking at it from a more balanced perspective and addressing the issues with holistic long-term solutions anchored toward peace and progress instead of the need to simply “avoid pain.”
Living with a loving and nurturing perspective also relieves the burden of events as “always” being potentially negative. Instead, events are approached from the possibility of always being positive – either overtly beneficial or with some kind of silver lining that again promotes nurturing and loving progress. From this perception, happiness, joy, and laughter are much more attainable. Even more, our mental and physical health also benefits.
What doors might one open when the universe is seen as nurturing and loving? Versus doors that would be avoided or not even recognized as existing because of fear and anxiety blinding the way? How might one’s health change or become more balanced by re-thinking the need for constant protection and alertness?
For too long you might have seen the universe and the outside world as “the enemy” or at the very least “not accommodating.” What if you were to outstretch your hand and offer it your friendship instead of your enmity?
When we start to perceive the universe and the world around us as nurturing and loving, we want to fall “in tune” with that. In turn, this makes us become more loving and nurturing — not just to ourselves, but to others around us. Conversely, when we are always in “combat” mode, it becomes a habit of thought that we are always “fighting to survive,” to which we not only see “us-against-the-world” we also see “us-against-others.” Competition, in this sense, is not always a good thing. Though it might inspire and innovate new technologies, when competition turns from positive growth and progress to “kill the competition” and “fight to stay ahead” you begin to look at others as an adversary, which invites those aspects of aggression, anxiety, and fear to once again take hold. It would be far better to view competition from a loving sense, in that they might inspire you to greater heights and aspects of creativity you didn’t know you had. That’s a good thing. It demonstrates how we are all connected and are valuable. Is not your competition valuable if they inspire you to grow, become better, and offer new and different services you might not otherwise have thought of without them? This, to me, is how a loving and nurturing world system would see competition.